Golf truth: Good shots come from
experience. Experience comes from bad shots.
I was watching a group deal with
unexpected results. Their first inclination was to explain what was
wrong.
One guy started and everyone else piled
on. It was just a made up opinion that became shared.
Once they agreed, there was no point
investigating further. Time to go to something else.
For many people, naming a situation is
enough. Doesn’t solve anything, doesn’t make it better, but it
lets everyone move on with misunderstood agreement.
I have a default after-action question,
“What
was the best thing you learned?”
That’s not an idle question. While
I’m trying to figure it out, I don’t want some idjut making up a
negative label, because then we might accept the label and move on
before the useful work gets done.
If I’m going to ponder, I want
everyone else doing the same thing, not distracting me with their
made-up labels.
H. L. Mencken said, “For every
problem, there is a simple solution, and it is wrong.”
I don’t stop at simple solutions any
more. The solutions I find are the result of layering what works on
top of what works until we come to something useful. A major part of
that is staying with a lesson until we get something valuable, which
is usually harder than figuring out what is wrong.
What’s your example of looking
through the curtain of wrong to discover some right?
Look for the positive and comment on that - ignore the negative (the recipient will 'hear' the silence about the negative).
ReplyDeleteThis will encourage more of that positive action and grows the individual.
Be positive - say positive - do positive - share positive...connect the ends to form a perfect circle.