Zig ,
Harvey, and Dale contributed significantly to my professional
development. How?
By
telling stories to show the benefit of doing something a certain way.
Ziglar
would talk about 'the Redhead' and 'Yazoo', Mississippi while weaving
his lessons about listening and giving value.
Mackay
would wrap his storytelling around applying the laws of human nature
and making it easier to have a deep relationship with others.
Carnegie
was the geek of the group and told 'why' stories – why, based on
observation and research, doing it this way gets your desired result
to happen smoothly.
These
three gentlemen had a common theme: communication
is about 80% listening, 10% talking, and 10% just being there quietly
while the prospect connects the dots.
On
the surface, their topic was about sales and the message was to learn
and satisfy the buyer's needs. To see the true scope and range of
their teachings, simply substitute 'relationship' for sales and
'friend' (or 'redhead') for buyer – these lessons work with people
you care about at every level.
They
each said it best in a quote captured for the ages:
- Zig Ziglar: You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.
- Harvey Mackay: A mediocre person tells. A good person explains. A superior person demonstrates. A great person inspires others to see for themselves.
- Dale Carnegie: You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in the other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
I'm
all done with the 10% talking – now it's time for the 80% listening
part – please share your thoughts.
How
will this point of view help you?