Golf truth: Good shots come from experience. Experience comes from bad shots.
I was watching a group deal with unexpected results. Their first inclination was to explain what was wrong.
One guy started and everyone else piled on. It was just a made up opinion that became shared.
Once they agreed, there was no point investigating further. Time to go to something else.
For many people, naming a situation is enough. Doesn’t solve anything, doesn’t make it better, but it lets everyone move on with misunderstood agreement.
I have a default after-action question, “What was the best thing you learned?”
That’s not an idle question. While I’m trying to figure it out, I don’t want some idjut making up a negative label, because then we might accept the label and move on before the useful work gets done.
If I’m going to ponder, I want everyone else doing the same thing, not distracting me with their made-up labels.
H. L. Mencken said, “For every problem, there is a simple solution, and it is wrong.”
I don’t stop at simple solutions any more. The solutions I find are the result of layering what works on top of what works until we come to something useful. A major part of that is staying with a lesson until we get something valuable, which is usually harder than figuring out what is wrong.
What’s your example of looking through the curtain of wrong to discover some right?
Look for the positive and comment on that - ignore the negative (the recipient will 'hear' the silence about the negative).
This will encourage more of that positive action and grows the individual.
Be positive - say positive - do positive - share positive...connect the ends to form a perfect circle.
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